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How to Stop the Withdraw-Pursue Cycle and Build a Stronger Relationship

If you’re tired of repeating the same argument with your partner, you’re not alone. The withdraw-pursue dynamic is something many couples face. One partner pulls back, while the other pushes harder, and before you know it, you’re both stuck in a pattern that’s hard to break. Understanding this cycle can help you get past it […]

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Hey, I’m Alexa! I’m a Registered Clinical Counsellor based in Vancouver, B.C. I’ve curated this blog specifically for you to answer your most pressing questions about counselling and building healthy relationships.

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Reflecting on My Experience As a relationship counsellor with nearly a decade of experience, I’ve had the privilege of working with many couples who were feeling stuck and disconnected. Over the years, I’ve seen firsthand how counselling can help couples rediscover the parts of their relationship that brought them together in the first place, while […]

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Reflecting on My Experience Looking back on my early marriage, I can’t help but think about how much I struggled with jealousy in the beginning. My past relationships had left me with a lot of trust issues, and I couldn’t shake the fear that my partner might hurt me the same way. I started projecting […]

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Reflecting on my wedding day this past Spring, I can’t help but think about how much I wish I could go back and give myself the advice I’ve since learned. The wedding itself was beautiful, but leading up to the big day and some unexpected challenges made it tough to stay fully present and enjoy […]

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I know that the idea of marriage counselling can feel overwhelming. It’s totally normal to worry about being judged or to wonder if you’ll just end up talking in circles without seeing any real progress. But the truth is, counselling isn’t about judgment—it’s about gaining new skills, understanding each other more deeply, and building a […]

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Couples counselling is a powerful tool for improving communication, resolving conflict, and strengthening your relationship. Whether you’re facing challenges or just want to feel more connected, knowing what to expect from therapy can help you approach it with confidence and clarity. Therapies Used in Couples Counselling In couples counselling, I use a variety of approaches, […]

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Navigating counselling options can feel overwhelming, especially when deciding between individual or couples therapy. Understanding the differences can help you choose the best fit for your situation. What Is Individual Counselling? Individual counselling helps you work through personal challenges and behaviours that affect your relationships. This type of therapy helps you understand your triggers, patterns, […]

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When an affair shakes the foundation of your marriage, it can feel like everything is falling apart. But here’s the truth: Your first “version” of your marriage may be over, but that doesn’t mean your second version—the one that’s stronger, healthier, and more fulfilling—can’t be even better. It’s not going to be easy, but with […]

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Have you ever wondered if your relationship worries are just anxiety or if your gut is telling you something about your partner’s loyalty? It can be hard to tell the difference, especially when both can make you feel uneasy and leave you confused or upset. But addressing these worries is key to building a stronger […]

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Doubt can be one of the most harmful things in a relationship. It can slowly chip away at the trust you’ve built together. Addressing these doubts early on is key to keeping your relationship strong and growing. One powerful way to tackle doubts is through deep conversations. By opening up and talking honestly with each […]

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Online marriage counselling is a great way for couples to strengthen their connection and work through challenges. The flexibility of joining sessions from home and fitting them into a busy schedule makes it an easy and accessible option for many. In this blog, we’ll cover what to keep in mind when starting online counselling and […]

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