Alexa Gelles

Relationship Anxiety and Building Trust

Navigating Anxiety in Relationships: Strategies for Long-Term Success

June 24, 2024

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Hey, I’m Alexa! I’m a Registered Clinical Counsellor based in Vancouver, B.C. I’ve curated this blog specifically for you to answer your most pressing questions about counselling and building healthy relationships.

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This blog is about how anxiety can affect relationships and how to deal with it. We’ll talk about how anxiety can make it hard to trust and connect with your partner, especially in the early stages of a relationship. I’ll also share practical tips for better communication and support!

1. How Anxiety Affects Long-Term Relationships

Anxiety can mess up even the strongest relationships. If one partner has anxiety, they might unintentionally push their partner away by constantly seeking reassurance, being jealous, or clingy. This behavior can lead to misunderstandings, fights, and even a lack of intimacy. For example, if someone with anxiety keeps asking their partner if they still love them, it can make the partner feel like they are not trusted. This can create a cycle where the anxious person needs more reassurance and the partner feels more pressured.

2. Dealing with Anxiety in Early Relationship Stages

Starting a new relationship can be tough when anxiety gets in the way. It can make you doubt your partner or constantly worry about the future. For instance, you might wonder if they really like you or if they will leave you. To cope, it’s important to understand why you feel anxious. Maybe past relationships make you worry, or you are afraid of getting hurt. Talk about your fears calmly with your partner. Let them know what makes you anxious. Sometimes, getting help from a therapist can really make a difference. They can teach you ways to manage your anxiety and improve your relationship.

3. Tips for Better Communication with Anxious Partners

Communication is key in helping your partner with anxiety. Listen actively, show empathy, and set boundaries when needed. When your partner talks about their anxiety, make sure to listen without interrupting. Show that you care by saying things like, “I understand” or “That sounds really hard.” Setting boundaries is also important. Let your partner know what you can and cannot handle. Encouraging your partner to soothe themselves can also be helpful. Suggest activities like deep breathing, going for a walk, or writing in a journal to help them calm down. If you can do it with them, even better!

4. Taking Care of Yourself in Anxious Relationships

Don’t forget about your own well-being! Practice self-care by being aware of your feelings, being kind to yourself, and finding healthy ways to manage stress. For example, if you feel overwhelmed, take a break and do something you enjoy, like reading a book or taking a bath. This not only helps you, but also strengthens your relationship. When you take care of yourself, you are better able to support your partner.

5. Getting Professional Help if Needed

If things get too overwhelming, don’t hesitate to seek professional support. Therapists can offer effective techniques like EMDR to address anxiety triggers and improve your relationship. They can help you understand where your anxiety comes from and how to manage it. Sometimes, couples therapy can also be beneficial. A therapist can teach you both how to communicate better and support each other.

Understanding and Managing Anxiety in Relationships

Understanding and managing anxiety in relationships takes effort, but it’s worth it for a happy and lasting connection. By communicating openly, showing empathy, practicing self-care, and seeking help when needed, you can navigate anxiety together and build a strong relationship. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help and to take things one step at a time.

Take the First Step Towards Stronger Relationships!

Are you ready to prioritize open communication, empathy, and self-care in your relationships? Explore further resources or seek relationship counseling with me to treat relationship anxiety and foster healthier connections.

Your journey can start now! Reach out today and take the first step towards a happier, healthier relationship.

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